I tried to message him, it came back BLOCKED (he blocked me). I am glad now I realise he was just leading me on to suit his own selfish needs. You gain a true sense of him as a potential partner. I was very unsure because from the pictures I had seen he was totally not my type but he was smartand funny so I agreed. Anxiety will often lead you to make rushed decisions that you might regret later. Fast forward to Christmas- he tells me how much he cares and loves me but within the next week, his calls become less often however he says its his schedule and hes sleeping while Im awake and when Im sleep hes up driving. And the guys that I date are meant to come from pretty good background (i.e. Theres always someone else .. Dont stress it. Life certainly isnt. So what would you recommend a girl does when a guy withdraws because she has been a bit needy. Throughout the three dates he would give me all the validation a girl could want that he liked me. Had a good weekend? (Can you believe this asshole?) My guy had a lot of issues going on, but I dont think that excuses him at all. I remember last conversation where he told me he misses me and our conversations..then a day later he went M.I.AI tried to phone him (not realizing this is actually him disappearing)2 days later I told myself well, I will not allow any man to do this to me.sure I cried for an hour, then dressed up, phoned my friends, poured my heart out and here I am still mad as hell at him, but obviously he was not the one and I decided that I am worth much more than the way he treated me / handled the situationI did however, knowing that he wouldnt reply) sent him a farewell message just to give myself that final peace of mind. The fact you wrote, I may never get over it, tells me you like the idea of the emotional intimacy which is why I wrote the second paragraph. 2. The fact of the matter is some people fix themselves by breaking others!!! He may start to withdraw, to lose interest, and you just feel that something is off. However if you want someone that will put you and the relationship first, generally, then look for a guy with those values this guy is not him. Give him his three months and even if its a new girl, hell be back, missing you more if you were really close. That can not be about me. We texted a tiny bit here and there, but I didnt feel ovely interested so it didnt go much past hows your day. At this point it was a friendship. He isnt even the guy whose picture or profile you read. Although, Im the same person but I dont know. He hasnt contacted me nor responded to me texts since then. Because I didnt know he was a magician. I dont know what to do. Never once does a Woman ask what do I bring to the table? i dated a guy I met off a dating website for 5 months, definite chemistry and we had a blast together, the same kind of goofy humor, like the same music and enjoyed each others company. Everything was fine, I really felt that he liked me and that he wanted to pursue me. Its amazing and therapeutic to know that I am not alone in this experience. I was inconsolable because if dating me was too consuming with work, why would he be looking for something new? In fact, one of the top reasons guys act interested but then disappear is that they think you're not compatible. He said he read her the act and said, Hell, no way! If youre looking for someone emotionally available, forget about him after you tell him why. We met for coffee that Tue and I felt in my gut that something was different. Its usually because Im too focused on something else. I told him that Im really into him but I dont feel ready, and he was saying a lot of nice things back. I just freeze up. ) Im 50+, 7 years later, and still trying but stopped trying to figure them out. Im maybe a 7.5 or an 8. Another new experience. If you had never met in person it may be that he doesnt look ANYTHING like what you imagined and was unwilling to go through with a personal meetup. Perhaps you wanted a relationship with him. A lots of guys would die for her, and I ought to be fighting the universe to keep her. I dont know what to do. So I definitely believe in being honest when you can be, you might help someone out. I have been talking/seeing this guy 9 months and what started out as a fling to me turned into something much more than I had expected. Just to reassure you not all guys are like this. He will be at your doorstep within a few minutes. So we get chatting again, he wants to call meHe called and told me the reason he missed the first date is his ex came to his home (he has his 2 kids) and found him on POF and freaked out. The reason Im sharing this with you guys is that I think its important not to lash out at someone in these circumstances. If he still doesn't answer then you've got to let it go. They wernt even conscious games really but more on a sub-conscious level. I am a female and I met my disappearing man in Feb 2016, he flirted and flattered me and as I was single saw no harm in becoming FB friends. Im guessing no (but would love to hear otherwise). Everyone says we belonged together that he needed me I was his anchor and that he loves me so much. Dont waste another minute thinking about him and dont text him again!! another week goes by, I text: Happy Easter. Why? Why did he change all of a sudden? You have 1. already sent him a long message which he ignored and 2. another message on Facebook. So I was unsure of which of my broken-hearted hate filled texts he was getting. Why text me several years later just like? Im taking my power backeven though my heart aches. (Yet my profile was crystal clear that was why I was there online). Reading all of these heartfelt stories has really made me think! He clearly has issues, and you dont need his issues to become your issues. Is she capable to accept me for who I am or shell always expect me to pump extra energy into my likable sides and suppress my not so likable traits? He talked about wanting to see my apartment and other things that would leave me to believe this would not be the last time I saw him. Why would you want to be with a guy who doesnt want to be with you anyway? :-(. I felt I needed a break to give myself time to heal, to reassess my goals, and to instill this mindset about dating that Ive been learning from ANM. Mind you I am not a narcissist, I am a codependent nice guy/white knight. Its been almost 2 weeks now. That he is a jerk is a separate thing. Guys are on an entire different timeline than women. Lol. Met a guy who didnt want a relationship. Your results are completely up to you, your level of awareness, expertise, the action you take and the service you provide to others. And he didnt mention anything! Im not sure what to do or how to proceed. Then in the middle of the week he texted again: Hey Luca will I see you on the weekend, I want to see you so much. His texting became less frequent and when I started another attempt and made a suggestion for a meeting, he answered, Im not sure about that weekend, probably my friend and I are planning to do something. Keep pursuing YOUR passions, your dreams, honour what you want in your life and take pleasure in meeting those people who cross your path for however long they choose to, but also take pleasure in who YOU decide to hang out with. 9. Not unless its because he likes the benefit of having somewhere convenient to crash out? Anyway basically has been texting everyday, and get on really really well have a great sense of humour and banter between us that other people who are not working in music would not necessarily understand? Maybe he thought he was interested & got scared, maybe he thought he was ready for a relationship & isnt, maybe he changed his mind, maybe hes just an asshole. Remember, if he wanted to see/speak to you, he would. With for a long time but turns out she was cheating on him and even before that he was with her on and off and then completely let go. He even said next time we will play more PS4 games which indicate that he would come over to my place. The general belief that women react to rejection is exaggerated by the film industry, painting them as hysterical beings when someone doesnt want them. But Im not letting it distract my silence on him. All of this occurred within 4 weeks. Many thought we were couples annd i had also seen his intrest in me but i got fired last thursday then he said,hell leave the work too cause i aint there anymore ! I am no longer going to chase a guy, if he is interested he will chase me. I told him that I have feelings too and I feel very hurt I also felt that I was not a priority in that no matter what as long as she is going to have something against what he does and if he responds that way we could never have a healthy relationship because she will always control what he does. In my opinion, I would forget him! He might ghost because he doesn't want to face the music and come clean that you're not right for him (and vice versa). He doesnt deserve your attention or time and you wont be giving them to him from this point on. And therein lies the problem fairytale stories written by men and read to us by Daddy. But these guys are in their mid 30s and 40s. You could guess how I reacted! He might have made up with an ex or went out with someone he likes. Dont fall for it. Chalk it up to one good date and keep fishing. Look at me! I met a guy online few months ago, we chatted constantly every weekend Fridays and Saturdays to be exact, then after a while it went to only Saturdays and sometimes nothing, now hes totally gone. Im still so confused and hurt. I enjoyed the best of texting with a BF where his thoughtful texts brought smiles to my face and the worst where weve ended what we had through texting because it was so conveniently instant. #sso oh no. He messaged me every single day for 10 months. Honestly I am hurt, I cant stop crying, I cant eat, sleep, and have turned off my socialmedia accounts. I called that night to see if he was okay and he sent me straight to vm. I know that if I havent heard from him by now, with the kind of relationship we had, I will never hear from him again. Theres a pattern that sees through this game that some guys obviously love to play. That was the first time he disappeared. Look at it the way they do, and maybe things will work out, but dont hold your breath and dont expect not to be hurt either. To add insult to injury, hes completely re-updated his tinder profile and has been very active so I know hes on his phone. We had a very real and intense, though short-lived affair. I was not what they were looking for or perhaps they werent even looking and I was just convenient. Ive been told they love me after one date, and I can barely remember their names. Our experiences do color how we view things. unfortunately i do know that he is alive so it was not because he dropped dead that he disappeared. I deactivated my own Facebook account for a while. So we spent that weekend training, and we had lunch and laughs afterwards. I lay out that I dont think he can handle my past baggage and insecurities. Seriously. Not waiting for his messages. I guess what I just really want now is to move on and completely forget about him. We were happy the next months. Until few weeks ago after being so consistent for a good 4/5 months his replies would take longer and I didnt question him. I met a guy on an online dating website (needless to say, profile is now closed). We just chatted and then swapped numbers. This situation is quite bizarre because literally we have not stopped talking to each other. Do you accuse him straight away? But please do not reach out to him again. Good luck. its been two months and we still having bad communication.. He encouraged me to do well and be better. He spends more time doing random things. I came to realize it was a big problem for him so I stopped expecting him to do the sleepover thing. This article is sooooooooooo true and so well summarized. Then right before he went into work he sent me a heart symbol through text (<3) and it made me happy. But he suddenly stopped texting during a day and a half, then on the same friday he invited me at his home and watch a movie though It was late I accepted and he picked me up. Two days go by, I tried calling him, he didnt call back. That way, drunk texting him will be obviously less likely to happen again and you wont have to deal with you regretting stuff you texted him. Hell either man up and show himself to be an awesome contender for long-term partnership, OR hell bounce for good, creating space in your life for YOUR man. Unless youve had the relationship talk and agreed you are dating or in a relationship, then the guy doesnt think he ghosted on you. Did he ever end up talking to you again? For men its generally pretty simple- your attraction at first is coupled with curiosity- if the attraction holds you will continue to explore your curiosity about her. The Internet, social media, iPhones and all those techie dvices now make it easier to not-be-a-man. He asked for explanation and I told him this: I like your company, you are really nice but I want something more serious, and I think we arent looking for the same thing because you seem to want just to be a friend and he replied that he had no idea I wanted something with him and asked what did I see in him and that he wanted just to hang out as only friends wasnt fully true. Those who are not will fade and disappear. Really we should stay true to our real feelings, nature, impulses.. in exploring other people. But to be fair, you must see it from their perspective too. They think I am at least 10 years younger because I dont look my age. So you may be willing to chat a little more with this vanisher, but be completely unwilling to accept this type of treatment again. And yeah, thats disappointing but its not the be all, end all. I had just got out of a serious relationship and didnt want anything serious. 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